You’ll never be good enough. You can’t do it. Stop wasting your time.
That’s the voice inside your head trying to prevent you from success.
Think you’re alone? Think again.
We often assume that successful, confident people never have any doubts. We believe their decisions come easy and are never accompanied by regrets; however, that belief couldn’t be further from the truth.
Self-doubt is a natural human response to all the challenges life throws at us – acting as a mechanism to prevent us from facing failure. This may be useful in a life or death situation, but not so much when you are setting goals, planning to rank advance, achieve an incentive or unsure if you should sign up for the 5k road race.
In these situations, we often find our thoughts of uncertainty overstaying their welcome.
Erin Hanson provides the best advice anyone can give on second guessing themselves, “What if I fall? Oh, but my darling. What if you fly?”
Here are some tips to help you overcome self-doubt:
- You’re not alone
Believing that you’re the only one with doubts is a certain way to set yourself up for failure. It is important to understand that you are not alone and that everyone goes through phases of uncertainty. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Overthinking will only make matters worse and you will end up creating problems that aren’t there. Arm yourself with some Motivate, speak to a peer, your team or your upline leader.
- Become Present
Self-doubt is often an unwanted consequence due to overthinking. Focusing on the present rather than the future or the past can provide your mind with much needed clarity, allowing you to refocus and push forward.
A simple mindfulness exercise such as sitting down while practicing deep breathing or a few minutes of guided meditation can help cure your indecision. With a fresh perspective you will be able to regain your focus and tackle whatever doubts you had before. Try a drop of sandalwood on your palms and inhale deeply, or frankincense if you are seeking clarity.
- Set Actionable Goals
Still caught in a place of inaction? Small accomplishments are one of the simplest tactics to help you get your mojo back. Your goals don’t need to be the size of Goliath, requiring the perfect shot to defeat.
By breaking your goals into smaller, more actionable chunks, it will ease the overwhelming stress of figuring out where to start. The sense of achievement you will experience from crossing each step off your list will lead to a boost of morale and keep you striving towards the finish line. To stay on track try using Intune.
- Surround yourself with optimism
Surrounding yourself with positive influences is a great way to keep you moving in the right direction. Keep those that provide you encouragement close to you and seek their advice when things go wrong.
Having the support of family and friends can help keep you motivated when you’re unsure of the next step to take. Don’t forget to distance yourself from those that don’t believe in you or provide any sense of negativity. My favorite oil for this is Elevation. I just can’t help but feel the joy in any task when I diffuse it.
- Believe in yourself
The underlying cause of self-doubt is from not believing in yourself. I am not worthy of this success or if I don’t aspire and believe in myself, I can’t be disappointed. This is the perfect time to relish in past success. Use prior accomplishments as leverage to dismiss your current fears. You have been here before. You have doubted yourself in the past and you are still here – this time is no different. Believe in who you are, in what you are going to achieve and don’t be afraid to take a chance.
For some belief in yourself try our Cheer bend for a burst of positivity.
In the words of Michael Jordan, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life … and that is why I succeed.”
- Prove others wrong
Sometimes people fill your mind with fears because they are too afraid to follow their own dreams or they failed once or because they are jealous of your success. Do not allow the limited beliefs of someone else to impact you in anyway. Use their doubts as fuel along your journey.
Self-doubt gives us an easy out – allowing us to avoid our fears and protect ourselves from being hurt by failure. However it is indecision that we should be fearing. There is nothing wrong with trying and failing. Great things happen outside of your comfort zone. Sometimes you need to take risks, block out the doubts and just have a go. Try our Passion blend to give you the daring to try something new.
Some people want it to happen, Some wish it could happen. Others make it happen. Michael Jordan